A Can Do Mom

 Learning how to set boundaries with parents is a pivotal step in most of our lives. Sometimes we need to set boundaries with our own parents, help our partners set boundaries with theirs, or even teach our kids how to set them with us. But regardless of the situation, it’s not always easy. Trust me, I know. Today we’re breaking down the basics of how to set boundaries with parents, without damaging the relationship in the process. What Are Boundaries? Let’s start by talking about what boundaries actually are. For a long time, boundaries were only thought of in physical terms. For example: “Please don’t hug me without asking.” “I’m not comfortable with you touching me without my permission.” “Could you please stop touching me in that spot?” These are still valid, of course. But boundaries can go far beyond physical space. Emotional boundaries, time boundaries, and communication boundaries are just as important. Here are a few more examples: “I don’t take phone c...

Whether it’s you, your partner, or your kids, ADHD can make cleaning feel overwhelming and incredibly boring. In my home, both my husband and oldest daughter have ADHD, so I know this struggle well. The good news? Cleaning can get easier. These practical tips are designed to help ADHD brains work with their natural rhythms, not against them. 1. Make Cleaning Fun (Yes, Really) Cleaning doesn’t offer much stimulation, which is why it often feels unbearable for ADHD brains. One simple fix? Pair cleaning with something enjoyable: Listen to a favorite podcast or audiobook Blast your go-to playlist Call a friend and chat while you clean Pro tip: Talking to someone while cleaning is a form of “body doubling” — a proven ADHD-friendly productivity tool. 2. Set One Clear Goal Before You Start ADHD often brings executive dysfunction which means knowing you should clean but not knowing where to begin. Make it easier by picking one specific goal, like: “I’ll clean for 15 m...

There’s been a big movement lately among parents who want to embrace gentle parenting. And I’m all for it! I think it’s a great alternative to the stricter parenting methods many of us grew up with. But I also realize there’s a lot of controversy surrounding gentle parenting discipline techniques and whether or not they really work. So I wanted to put together a list of ideas for ways you can discipline your children without using the outdated methods many of us are trying to leave behind. But first… What Is Gentle Parenting? Let’s start by clearing up a common misunderstanding. Gentle parenting is often mistaken for parents just “letting their kids do whatever they want.” In reality, gentle parenting is all about treating your kids with respect and understanding, while still teaching them right from wrong. Instead of using fear, control, or harsh punishments, this approach emphasizes strong communication, empathy, and boundary setting. I wrote an article a while back with some g...