The Past Doesn’t Get the Final Say

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I don’t know who needs to hear this (besides myself), but I’m going to say it anyway…

If you’ve had a bad year—or even just some hard weeks or months in 2022 that doesn’t mean 2023 can’t be different.

I know all too well how it can feel like nothing is ever going to change for the better. Like life is stuck in a downward spiral. Maybe you haven’t felt that low lately, but I think we all experience hard seasons that knock the wind out of us.

So I suppose this post is just to remind you: you’re not alone.

It’s so easy to feel isolated when things are falling apart, but you’re not as alone as you think. At any given moment, we’re all struggling with something. That’s why it’s so important to be part of something whether it’s a tight friend group, a supportive family circle, or a community that understands you.

That’s also why I started this blog to reach out to other moms, so we can share our experiences and lift each other up.

My experience this year hasn’t been the best.

My oldest moved out. And while I’m proud of her and happy she’s spreading her wings, I still worry. I’m still her mom.

I’ve been dealing with some of my own health issues and those of people I love. And to be honest... I’m just tired.

But I still want to have hope for next year. Because just like life can spiral down quickly, it can also take a turn upward just as fast.

Life comes in waves. I know I’ll have low points in 2023, just like every year before. But I also know I’ll have high points the moments that make it all worth it.

This post is just a little reminder: new years are a strange mix of hope and uncertainty. And when you’re in a hard season, that uncertainty can feel heavier than the hope. But it doesn’t have to.

I’m challenging myself and you to let go of the hard parts of 2022 and go into the new year with expectation.

Don’t let your past weigh you down.
Not the past from ten years ago.
Not the past from a few months ago.
Not even the past from last week.

Every day is a new chance. Every year is a new start.
We’re given a “clean slate” more often than we realize and that’s a gift we shouldn’t take for granted.

Personally, I’ve always loved New Year’s. It feels full of possibility. Up until recently, I used to feel nothing but excitement going into January. And honestly? I want that feeling back.

So I’m going to fill out my resolutions.
Stay up till midnight with my daughters.
And step into 2023 with no old burdens just a hopeful heart and a smile on my face.

And I hope you’ll do the same. I hope your New Year’s Eve is filled with peace and joy and maybe even some laughter. We all deserve that.

I know this post may have turned into more of a ramble or a personal vent. But I hope that somewhere in it, you found some comfort, motivation, or just a reminder that you are not alone.

I’d truly love to hear from you:
What was your year like?
What are you hoping for in 2023?

Let’s make it a good one. 

And I want to close with this quote that says everything I’m trying to express:

“Accept what is…
Let go of what was…
And have faith in what will be.”
—Sonia Ricotti

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